A Matter of Manners

Posted: February 18, 2011 in Diari, Interest, Islam

Assalamu’alaykum warahmatullah,

Alhamdulillah MSA at UoA is very active! Today, MSA held another beneficial program with three prominent speakers namely Dr Syed Iqbal, Sheykh Muhammad Faqih and Dr Reda Bedeir who gave talk on manners in Islam.

Frankly, I’m telling you, the talks today are extremely GOOD! The first talk given by Dr. Syed was about “Etiquettes of Student of Knowledge.” He first started his lecture by mentioning the best of generations of the ummah, that the Prophet SAW narrated in one of an authentic hadith which is the sahabah, followed by the tabi’ and the tabi’in. He mentioned about how eager the cousin of the Prophet SAW, Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas, in seeking knowledge from the senior sahabah after the death of the Prophet SAW when he was still at a very young age. How he would respect all the sahabah of whom he wished to learn a hadith from. He also mentioned few other stories about how the great Imam of the deen learned from their teachers and what they have to go through just to get few narrations of hadith.

SubhanAllah, when you think of it, how hard it was then to get knowledge and how they really respected their teachers, we really need to appreciate the knowledge that we have nowadays. Not just use the knowledge we had just for the sake of arguments and refutations but to learn them and apply them in our daily lives! He also mentioned that INTENTION is the KEY of KNOWLEDGE and how right intention should be manifested through application of the knowledge.
Some of the most important characters of a student of knowledge are:

– To be humble and to be ‘hungry’ for ‘ilm! Students of knowledge should know that they will never know enough.
– Fear of Allah for knowledge is a blessing from Allah. He bestows His knowledge to whomever He wishes and that knowledge can beneficial or harm depending on how one implement or use the knowledge bestowed.
– Respect the knowledge that one acquires and respect the teachers from whom one gets their knowledge from.
– Be a respectable carrier of knowledge by behaving well and have honourable and good qualities.
– Toughen self and not making excuses.
– Leave the doubtful matter.
– Not belittling oneself and not let passion extinguish oneself.

Another important thing that I think is beneficial is when the speaker mentioned about Imam Malik, who once said that students of knowledge should avoid taking knowledge from 4 kinds of people:

– A foolish who fools around publicly
– People of bid’ah
– Liars
– Worshippers who don’t have good memory.

The program continued with a second lecture by Sheykh Muhammad Faqih from Orange County, CA. He just arrived this night and came to UoA right away from the airport. Nevertheless, he can still give, I think, a very powerful speech about application of manners of Islam. He mentioned about the revolution in Egypt and praised the youths who came out and stand firm with their demands for the whole period of the revolution. He exclaimed that the revolution in Egypt is the GREATEST revolution in this recent time. Even greater than the revolution in Indonesia or the movement led by Ghandi! Why is it so great? Because throughout the whole period, there is not a single case of harassment, fights or anything bad that you would commonly have heard in any big gathering as such, has been reported.

The sheykh also wondered how the youths can organize themselves and behave very well, and he came to a conclusion, after speaking with Sheykh Waleed Basyouni, that it is due to the tarbiyyah that they have gone through. Truly, Islam can make wonders! After mentioning about the revolution in Egypt, the sheikh urged us to put authentic knowledge into authentic practice. He also said that muslims around the world should ponder upon the revolution in Egypt and that the revolution should be an inspiration for us to implement what we have learned.

The last speaker, Dr. Reda Bedeir, gave a lecture on patience, which is also an essential part of manners in Islam. Dr. Reda stated that Sabr or patience can be divided into three categories:

– Staying away from disobedience,
– Doing what has been commanded,
– Dealing with calamities.

And among these categories, the first category is the hardest to apply. He narrated a story about how Umm Sulaim dealt with the lost her only child with Abu Talha when her husband was away and how she treated her husband after he came back and told him about the death of their child. It is amazing how patience can help muslims to overcome the sorrow and sadness of their heart when calamity as such befalls on the true believers. Dr. Reda also mentioned about how the Prophet SAW reacted towards the disbelievers who rejected him outright and how he SAW pitied them despite their bad treatments towards him. We should also strive for sabr jameel where we only complain to Allah and no other like Prophet Ya’qoob AS did when he heard the false news from his sons about the death of Prophet Yusuf AS. Allah promised to those who are patient:

– Salah from Allah (forgiveness)
– Rahmat (mercy of Allah)
– Guidance from Allah.

We should really ponder on a narration from ‘Umar RA when he said that he thanked Allah for calamities that befallen him because of 4 reasons:

– He still had his faith
– The calamities could be worse
– Allah forgives sins of those who are patient with calamities that befallen him
– No calamity is greater than the loss of Prophet SAW

These are my notes throughout the whole program. Hope that these notes will benefit us all, inshaAllah. May Allah makes us among those who have the best of manners. May Allah makes us among those who are patient. May Allah makes us among those who gain and apply their knowledge and may Allah perfects us in our Imaan, Taqwa and Akhlaq, ameen.



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